Letting Go of Self-Comparison
I know we always hear how self-comparison is the thief of joy, but how can we actually let go of it completely? Before I go on I want to admit that even though I am writing this blog post for you, self-comparison still sneaks into my thoughts sometimes. The only difference now, is that I don't let it dwell in my thoughts. Instead, I remind myself of what is true.
Their gifts don't take away from your gifts.
As hard as this can be to admit, there will always be someone out there that is better than us at something. Why is it that we can't celebrate both, those who are more gifted as well as our own best work? Just because they are better than us in something, doesn't take away from the fact that we have our own talents and purpose. God has a plan for us just like He does for them.
The way I see it, everyone has their role in life. Their lane, where they fit. You may really want something but at the end of the day, if it's not meant for you, you shouldn't force it. Whenever we're comparing ourselves to people, our main focus is what we THINK we want in that moment. We tend to ignore long-term, big picture thinking.
As a blogger, I've realized how easy it is to get caught up in self-comparison. It can be hard to see other people get brand deals that I have been working for or see their posts do better than mine. It's very easy to get discouraged, but I have to remember that where I am meant to thrive, I will thrive. Whether it be through blogging or through something else God has planned for me! Whatever does not come my way, no matter how much I want it, doesn't come my way because it is not meant to be. Where you are meant to go and whatever you are meant to do, God will make a way for that.
Remember that social media is everyone's highlight reel.
I'll be the first to admit that it took me a LONG time to realize this. I used to constantly find myself envying other people's looks, relationships, etc., based on what they were posting on social media. In reality, SO much happens behind the scenes and we never know the full story. On social media, you don't see people's bad days or when they're hurting. No one's life is truly "picture perfect", although it may seem as if it is. I've had people come up to me or say something to me about a picture I posted, making an assumption about my life, when in reality I was really struggling that day.
I was listening to a sermon by Christine Caine (link here) this morning and she said something that I think we all need to keep in mind. If it's not edifying you or blessing you, unfollow them. Follow what exalts, uplifts and motivates you. Please don't miss out on your destiny because you are so focused on everyone else's life.