Realizing Your Worth
Updated: Aug 20, 2019
Okay guys, this blog post might get kind of personal, but this is something that's been weighing on me recently. First off, I want you all to know that realizing your worth is a process and can look different in different seasons of your life. For a while, I actually did not think this was a problem for me anymore, but I was wrong. Mentally, I know my worth. I'm confident in myself (for the most part lol) and I know that my life has meaning. What was just shown to me recently that even though mentally I was there, my actions were not matching up. In a sense, yes I realize my worth. Are my actions matching with that though? Not always, so that just shows me I'm not fully there yet, which is fine. I'm just halfway through the process! This week's blog post is going to touch base on realizing your worth, following through your actions with that confidence and where we should REALLY find our worth in.
1. Just because you don't look like her doesn't mean you are worth any less.
I know this sounds super cliché and we've all heard it before, but do you truly believe that? Or do you still find yourself comparing yourself to other girls when you see them posting pictures in their bathing suits or when you see a model in an ad? I stumbled upon this picture a couple of years ago and it's so powerful to me. I'm definitely guilty of comparing myself to others at times, but reminding myself that other's beauty doesn't take away from my own made a world of a difference. If you look around, there are so many different body types and facial features, but yet we are all beautiful in our own ways and have features that we should love about ourselves. Name 3 things about yourself that you love. Write them down and read it every morning. Add to the list if you want.
While I believe we should all have confidence and feel good about ourselves, beauty is not equivalent to worth. Stop letting the world convince you that just because you don't look a certain way that you are worth less than someone else. Whenever I'm feeling insecure, I remember the verse Psalm 139:14, "I am fearfully and wonderfully made." I have this verse above my mirror for this exact reason. When I read this verse and remember Who created me and thought to Himself "this is good", who am I to say that I am not enough? God doesn't make mistakes, so stop trying to convince yourself He did by not giving you what society seems as a "perfect appearance" as if it is equivalent to your worth as a person. You are alive for a reason and your life serves purpose.
2. Stop selling yourself short.
This topic was brought to my attention when I was listening to the Thick & Thin podcast episode all about settling. It can be easy to confuse settling for less with being realistic. This can happen in jobs, friendships, and relationships. If even the smallest voice in your head wants to tell you there is better out there, you're settling. If your friend was doing the same thing you're doing and you would tell her to leave the situation, why would you continue to do it? Stop making excuses when you know you deserve more in any circumstance. The fear of thinking nothing better will come along is going to prevent you from living the life you were meant to live.
Settling in most circumstances is not done consciously. We don't just wake up and decide that during our whole lives we're going to settle. It happens little by little with decisions you make daily. One of my best friends once told me, "You set the tone for how you're treated." The more I thought about it, the more I realized how true that is. The way you carry yourself and the behavior you put up with shows others how to treat you and how much to respect you. This is also a direct reflection of your self-worth. If you know you are worth more than you're getting treated at your job or in your relationship, stand your ground. Ask yourself, "Is this a reflection of how much I KNOW that I'm worth?"
3. If you feel like you're worth nothing or very little, this is for you.
I'm going to try my best to not get too churchy here, but this also helps me when I am tempted to think less of myself. Our self-worth is too often based on what other people tell us about ourselves. Just because you made that one mistake or maybe a million mistakes for that matter does not mean you are worth less than anyone else. Just because you don't have the "perfect" appearance (whatever that is) does not mean you are worth any less. Just because someone told you that you are worth less than them does NOT mean you are worth any less. If I'm being real, the only person you should allow to influence your thoughts on your self worth is God. What does He say about our worth? He says we are loved. We are blessed. We are chosen and we are made in HIS image. Even though we make mistakes because we are human, we are worth so much to Him that He gave His life up for us. Every single one of us.
I hope this blog post uplifts you today! Remember that this process looks different for everyone and doesn't happen overnight. Be easy on yourself and remind yourself who you are!