What 2018 Taught Me
I can honestly say that 2018 was one of the best years of my entire life. It wasn’t because it was smooth sailing, because it definitely was not. I struggled a lot this year but I also grew in many areas. Who I am today is completely a different person than who I was last year and for that I am forever grateful! 2018 taught me a lot of things about myself and about other people.
1. Not everyone thinks or feels as I do, and I'm okay with that.
If there is one thing I have learned over and over this year, it’s this. This was definitely a hard pill for me to swallow but it was absolutely necessary. Up until now, I was going through life giving everyone the benefit of the doubt. I would assume that people would never do certain things to me because I would never do that to them. I learned the hard way that this is not how the world works. While it definitely hurt and made me extremely upset, it was something I desperately needed to realize.
You can’t control what other people do to you but you can control how you react. Instead of being upset and blaming yourself for what others have done to you, realize the red flags that you were not seeing or choosing to ignore. Remember them and know what to look out for the next time. People will treat you the way you allow them to, so stop putting up with things you know you don’t deserve.
2. Pain pushes purpose. He will send showers during my seasons.
In Ezekiel 34:26 it says, “I will send down showers in seasons, there will be showers of blessings.” I cannot emphasize enough how evident this verse was for me this year. If I’m being completely transparent, I went through one of the hardest seasons of my life this year. Throughout this, God blessed me more than I could have asked for. From little blessings to big ones, every time something good happened to me I would repeat this verse in my head and my heart would feel so full because I knew what He was doing.
He had me go through this tough season to push purpose out of me and I am who I am now because of that. I have my own blog now because of that hardship, which I truly believe is part of my purpose. It may just seem like just a website to you, but to me this is a way for me to serve people. I enjoy being a friend to others and helping them navigate through life and this is one of the ways I can be that to anyone around the world which makes my heart so full. It's amazing to me how I can reach so many people through my blog.
My faith and prayer life grew so much during that tough season and the results from that have been life changing for me. My prayers were constantly answered and God continuously guided me. I grew closer to Him and have heard what He wants for my life more than I ever have before. I learned to love myself, I learned who God says I am, I learned what I want out of this life and how much I was selling myself short. God wants so much more for me than I was willing to receive. Now that I realize this, I walk with purpose and intention. I know where I’m going and what life I want to live.
3. Worrying about things you cannot control is a waste of time.
One of my best friends once told me “If someone told you how happy you'd be in 2 years and that everything was figured out, you wouldn’t stress about anything.” Honestly, that was some of the best advice I’ve ever gotten because she was so right. One day everything will work out, so why stress about little things? Why don’t I just live everyday with a carefree mentality, knowing that everything is going to work out in the end regardless of the roadblocks along the way? Easier said than done, I know, but once you realize this I really believe it can change the way you live your life.
Worrying about anything you are unable to control is really a waste of your time and energy. Half of the time, what you’re worrying about doesn’t even happen. Sometimes, it does happen and it isn’t nearly as bad as you thought it was going to be. In Philippians 4:6 it says, "Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank Him for all He has done." Instead of worrying about things you can’t control, focus on what you can control and give the rest up to God.